A Tribute to the Ones that Make it Possible

Sep 28, 2011
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Everywhere you look you can find some remarkable or touching story regarding those individuals that struggle every day because of some type of a disability, disease, or addiction that has consumed their lives. The individual must be able to endure whatever obstacles are thrown at them, no matter how big or how hard it may be.

But what about the individuals that have a choice…the individuals that are in “perfect condition” themselves, but make their own personal decision to allow an illness (or similar obstacle) to consume their life because someone they love is in need? They accept and take on the responsibilities of helping that person out because of pure and unconditional love.

Let me share a story with you. I saw a speech that Clay Walker made when he was accepting an award for the endless work he has done for charity “Band against MS” raising money for multiple sclerosis. When he went up to receive the reward this is what he had to say…

“Every night I give myself a shot, a shot of Copaxone, the drug that I ended up finding that helped me get into remission. Some nights I might not want to do it. I might want to take the night off and my wife goes, “Nope!” She lays it out every day. And it’s so funny that when she hears me put the autoject together (which is the thing that gives the shot), I don’t care if she is all the way at the other end of the house, somehow her bionic hearing, hears me putting that thing together and she peaks her head around the corner, and she looks me right in the eyes, and she says, “I love you.” Every night. Without her doing that I promise you, it would be 20x more difficult to take a shot every day, but because of that woman’s love and is that care-giving to me, her importance and her significance in my health is the most important component in me being able to walk over to those stairs and to come up here and receive this award.”

When I heard that speech it was so eye opening for me personally. He made a very valid point. His wife not only encourages him to be compliant with his daily injection, but she also reassures him of her love for him daily without anyone making her. She made a sacred vow to him to love him in sickness and in health and despite today’s society, she is doing just that. She herself was not personally diagnosed with an illness, but yet the illness is just as much a part of her as it is for him, but unlike him she could leave if she really wanted to, but she doesn’t.

“I have one goal in my life and that is to find the cure for MS, but along the road it’s going to take people like you and people like my wife that are going to encourage the ones who are dealing with the diseases to stay the course until there are cures that are found.”

Caregivers, although often overlooked truly do have the significant role, and the best term to describe those like Clay Walker’s wife is the “fearless caregiver.”

There couldn’t be a better description of what such special people represent because there are a lot of people that do just walk away. Unfortunately, you hear stories all the time about someone getting diagnosed with a disease and their spouses are out or their children abandon them. It’s the fearless ones that turn, look at it in the face, and look that person in the eyes and say, “You are not this disease. You are more than that. You are the person I love, and we’re going to fight this together.” That is the only thing that keeps the individual themselves going and keeps them fighting.

“Un-seeable, the invisible, but with fearless caregivers by our sides, we can conquer anything and that is the way you make us feel. Thank you for keeping us strong.” Clay Walker

Author: Jess