Does This Attitude Make Me Look Fat?

Nov 29, 2013
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I had a really interesting conversation with a few friends the other day. We were talking about what types of clothing makes us look the most trim. The answers ranged from no clothes at all, to sweaters and long pants, and a few options in between. While we were talking I made the comment that sometimes I look and the mirror in the morning and I think, “Hey, you’re looking pretty good today! No major belly bulge, no discernible love handles, good skin, hair looks nice, well done!” And I’m not joking, 3 hours later I will be wearing the same clothes, same hairstyle, same makeup, walk into the bathroom at work, look in the mirror and think, “ehhh, your stomach is not even close to flat, that belt looks dumb, your skin is blotchy and your hair is a frizzy mess….get your act together….jeez.”

It turns out, I’m not the only person that this happens to! I’m so glad I’m not alone. Why is it that one minute we can look at ourselves and feel good, healthy and happy, and the next minute we’re feeling depressed, unhealthy and feel gross?

I have one idea, and I think that it has everything to do with our attitudes toward what we do every day. Now that I’ve been paying attention to this, I realize that on the days when I’m struggling with statistics, or having a hard time writing a paper, I am a lot more self-critical, even if I felt good at the beginning of the day. On the days I’m feeling accomplished, I don’t get the same criticizing lows….except for the frizzy hair, it happens.

I have to remind myself frequently that my work does not define my value and that I am and will always be a work in progress. I try to be grateful for every day I have the opportunity to work and learn, and remember that if I felt trim this morning and feel fat in the afternoon, it probably has a lot more to do with my attitude than what I ate for lunch.

Has anyone else had a similar experience? How do you keep your attitude about yourself in check?

Author: Susan Silverman



  • Mak

    I agree that attitude and a sense of well being can affect our overall outlook on ourselves. A balance between mind, body AND spirit is necessary in order to feel good about ourselves. I’m by no means an attractive man, but after an intense workout at the gym, I feel great, focused and ready to take on the world!

  • Susan Silverman

    I definitely feel like I can take on the world when I leave the gym. I feel taller, too! Sometimes I have to kick my own butt out of the door for a workout when I know my bad attitude is likely low-activity related.